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The following is a copy of a brochure that was handed out at some schools, the author has given permission for this to be copied in whole and used again for the purpose of explaining Paganism to the general public. While this brochure is intended to educate teachers, etc. about their pagan students; the information contained in this article could apply just as easily to understanding the new neighbor who moved into the house down the street…

There Is a Pagan in Your Classroom

by

Suzanne “Cecylyna” Egbert

Copyright 2000

All Rights Reserved

(Reprinted with permission)

A student in your school practices a religion with which you may not be familiar. This leaflet is simply to give you information you may need to understand the different experiences this student may share with you, and answer any questions you might have.

What is a Pagan student likely to practice and believe? Because Pagans generally follow a non-creedal, non-dogmatic spirituality, there may be even more variants between Pagan religious beliefs than there are between denominations of Christianity.

The most commonly practiced types of Paganism are Wicca, Asatru, Druidry, or simply Paganism, just as a Christian can be Catholic, Presbyterian, or simply Christian. All of these are somewhat different from each other. Because of this, the following statements may not be true for every Pagan you encounter. However, there are some practices that are generally common among Pagans; the student or his parents will tell you if their practices differ significantly from the following:

A Pagan student will celebrate a nature-based, polytheistic religion.

A Pagan student will honor Divinity as both God and Goddess, sometimes with a feminist emphasis on the Goddess. One effect of this is that the student is likely to treat gender equality as an assumption.

A Pagan student will celebrate religious ceremonies with small groups on Full Moons and at the beginning and midpoint of each season, rather than with large congregations or at a set weekly schedule. These celebrations are often called ‘rituals’ or ‘circles’, and the congregations called ‘covens’, ‘groves’, ‘hearths’, or ‘circles’. Some of the items commonly found on the altar in a Pagan ceremony are statues of the Goddess or God; candles; crystals; wands; the athame – a blunt-edged dagger used as a symbol and not as a tool with which to cut; cups; cauldrons; incense; and a five-pointed star called the pentagram or pentacle.

A Pagan student may wear a symbol of his or her religion as an item of jewelry. The most common symbol is the pentacle, a five- pointed star in a circle. The misconception of the pentagram as a satanic symbol is based upon its inverted use by those groups, in the same manner in which devil-worshippers may use the Christian cross inverted. The meaning of the pentacle as worn by Pagans is rooted in the beliefs of the Greek Pythagoreans, for whom the pentagram embodied perfect balance and wisdom; inserting the star in the circle adds the symbol of eternity and unity. Other jewelry that may be worn includes Celtic knotwork, crosses, and triskelions; Thor’s hammer; the labrys, a double-headed axe used as a symbol by Greco-Roman worship of Cybele; Goddess figurines; crescent and/or full Moon symbols; the Yin-Yang symbol; or the eye of Horus or horns of Isis from Egyptian mythology.

A Pagan student will view Divinity as immanent in Nature and humanity, and view all things as interconnected. This often leads to a concern with ecology and the environment, and a fascination with the cycle of life.

A Pagan student will believe in magic, and may spell it ‘magick’ to differentiate it from stage illusions. This may include belief in personal energy fields like the Chinese concept of chi, and may also include the use of rituals and tools to dramatize and focus positive thinking and visualization techniques. It does not mean that the student is taught that he can wiggle his nose to clean his room, summon spirits or demons, or do anything else that breaks natural laws, though if young – like any child – a Pagan child may pretend these things. It also does not mean that the student is taught to hex or curse; in our ethical structure such actions are believed to rebound on the sender, and therefore are proscribed.

A Pagan student may believe in reincarnation. It is the most common eschatological belief held among Pagans, but is not universal. However, a Pagan student is unlikely to believe in either Heaven or Hell; she may believe in the Celtic Summerland, a place of rest between incarnations, or Valhalla, a realm of honor in Norse religions.

A Pagan student may call herself a Witch, a Wiccan, a Pagan or Neo- Pagan, a Goddess-worshipper, a Druid, an Asatruar, or a Heathen. He is unlikely to call himself a Warlock, as that is believed to come from the Scottish word for ‘oathbreaker’. And while a Pagan student may or may not be offended by the stereotype, she is likely to quickly inform you that the green-skinned, warty-nosed caricature displayed at Halloween bears no relation to her religion.

A Pagan student will be taught ethics emphasizing both personal freedom and personal responsibility. Pagan ethics allow personal freedom within a framework of personal responsibility. The primary basis for Pagan ethics is the understanding that everything is interconnected, that nothing exists without affecting others, and that every action has a consequence. There is no concept of forgiveness for sin in the Pagan ethical system; the consequences of one’s actions must be faced and reparations made as necessary against anyone whom you have harmed. There are no arbitrary rules about moral issues; instead, every action must be weighed against the awareness of what harm it could cause. Thus, for example, consensual homosexuality would be a null issue morally because it harms no one, but cheating would be wrong because it harms one’s self, one’s intellect, one’s integrity, and takes unfair advantage of the person from whom you are cheating. The most common forms in which these ethics are stated are the Wiccan Rede, “An it harm none, do as thou wilt,” and in the Threefold Law, “Whatsoever you do returns to you threefold.”

A Pagan student will hold a paradigm that embraces plurality. Because Pagan religious systems hold that theirs is a way among many, not the only road to truth, and because Pagans explore a variety of Deities among their pantheons, both male and female, a Pagan student will be brought up in an atmosphere that discourages discrimination based on differences such as race or gender, and encourages individuality, self-discovery and independent thought.

A Pagan student is also likely to be taught comparative religions. Most Pagans are adamant about not forcing their beliefs on the child but rather teaching them many spiritual systems and letting the child decide when s/he is of age. However, a Pagan student is unlikely to have an emotional concept of Heaven, Hell, or salvation as taught by Christian religions, though he may know about them intellectually. And a Pagan student will be taught to respect the sacred texts of other religions, but is unlikely to believe them literally where they conflict with scientific theory or purport to be the only truth.

A Pagan student is likely to enjoy reading, science, and helping professions. Margot Adler, National Public Radio journalist, reported the results of a survey of Pagans in the 1989 edition of her book, Drawing Down the Moon. The results showed that the one thing Pagans hold in common despite their differences is a voracious appetite for reading and learning. Pagans also seem to be represented strongly in the computer and health-care fields, so the Pagan child is likely to be computer- literate from an early age.

Despite their sometimes misunderstood beliefs, earth-based religions have grown steadily throughout the past few decades, and provide a satisfying spirituality to their practitioners. With the current appreciation of diversity and tolerance, more people now understand that different cultural backgrounds bring perspectives that can be valued instead of feared. It is our hope that as a educator this will provide you with the information you need to be able to facilitate understanding.

Permission is expressly given to distribute this article so long as it is free and used in its entirety.

For more information, contact the Pagan Pride Project Executive Director

Cecylyna Dewr,

at

http://www.paganpride.org

paganpride@paganpride.org

NOTE: While the above serves to explain Paganism as practiced by true followers of the Pagan Path; it must be understood that Paganism does have a certain “appeal” to many youngsters, who may decide to take up the whole concept without having a full understanding of what this spirituality is truly all about. Many Pagan adults (including myself) often become frustrated with the number of “wannabes” that we deal with on a regular basis. Most of these teens and tweens have no real in-depth understanding of Paganism…they just think it’s “cool to call yourself a witch.” They most likely are receiving no formal training from their family or elsewhere – what little they know often comes from what they see in the media (such as programs like “Charmed” and films like “Harry Potter”); and maybe also from reading books and websites. While curiosity is a good thing and exploration is to be encouraged, these youngsters should also be advised that there’s a big difference between real Paganism as a spiritual path, and the Hollywood hype they see on television and movie screens.

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Not too long ago, I published a post here at the Crossroads entitled “Too Deaf? Too Pagan? Too Firewalking?” This post was written as a response to a comment which was left on yet another one of my posts here on this blog… a comment which I found to be rather interesting.

This reader was expressing some of his thoughts in regards to my post “On Being Deaf…and Pagan”, in which I talked about exactly that: what it is like to be a Deaf person in the Pagan Community, and a Pagan in the Deaf Community. Once again, allow me to quote this guy’s words:

Psychologically speaking, the response you get is the response you caused. It seems that, wherever you go, you’re pointing out your differences instead of similarities. With Pagans, you’re irritating them by saying you’re deaf and with the deaf you’re irritating them by saying you’re Pagan.

I have a pretty good feeling that you would do the same thing if you went to a meeting of deaf Pagans: you’d shove your firewalking down their throat and they’d accuse you of being “too firewalking” for their taste.

If you want a better relationship with others, blend in rather than sticking out. When you point out how different you are, people automatically assume you’re implying you’re better than them.

Hmmmm… interesting.

Now, I’ve always maintained a policy of allowing people to say what they wish to say about my articles, whether I agree with them or not. On occasion I might respond to a comment with my own thoughts – or allow my readers to respond by sharing their thoughts. Oftentimes I have found reading comments to be enlightening and thought-provoking.

Yes, I have some thoughts on this guy’s comment.

But I found myself more curious to discover what my readers thought.

So I wrote a new post and put it up at the Crossroads and asked my readership to tell me just what they did think about this guy’s comment. Did they think he had a good point? Did they think there is some truth to what he was saying?

This guy says

“If you want a better relationship with others, blend in rather than sticking out.”

I wanted to know what my readers thought. Is this is the answer? Is “blending in” the way to create those better relationships?

“When you point out how different you are, people automatically assume you’re implying you’re better than them.”

Is this in fact what happens when we point out our differences? Do people automatically make that assumption?

As I explained to my readers, whether I agree or disagree with this guy’s statements; as I said, I do find his comments… interesting. I keep looking beyond just his response to me and thinking about how this would apply in general – for example, a Deaf person in the company of hearing people. Should we keep our mouths (and hands) shut and attempt to “blend in” so people will like us better, or speak up (and sign out!) and acknowledge our differences?

I asked my readers to post their thoughts…

And they did.

I would like to take a moment to thank everyone who did leave a comment. I found them all quite interesting, and enjoyed reading them.

I don’t have room to include everything that everyone said, but I would like to share some of these “enlightening and thought-provoking” comments that were left, and encourage you to go to the original post as mentioned above and read the rest of them…

So if I understand this guy correctly…

When we make an effort to express our own individuality and show ourselves for being the unique one-of-a-kind persons that we are, we are just cramming “whatever” down everyone’s throats… when in fact we should just be making an effort to conform to the status quo.

I have a problem with that…

Thanks, JD. I have a problem with it too.

I am not deaf, and do not spend time with the deaf. In fact, Osh is the only deaf person I know, and it is through her that the struggles of the deaf community have become known to me. I like Osh… she is opinionated and not afraid to speak her mind. Sometimes, in fact, she seems harsh. BUT, that’s because nobody speaks their mind these days. Everybody tries to blend in, because it is easier, and more comfortable.

Awww…shucks. Thanks, Sunny – I like you too! Yup, opinionated is a good word to use in describing me… and I am definitely known for speaking my mind – which admittedly has gotten me in trouble at times. But you’re right… it is easier to just go along with the crowd. Dunno if it’s always more comfortable, but I suppose each of us must make our own choices as to what we are able and willing to deal with.

Nobody is required to ‘accept’ anything. That is the beauty of America. We all choose what we wish to believe. We support/encourage those viewpoints we wish to perpetuate. We find that in life which enriches us on a personal level.

But when confronted by a situation/belief/modus operandi that we do not find palatable, we don’t have to accept anything; we do have to tolerate it. We must because that’s the beauty of the world (universe/spirit) – that there IS difference. It is this difference that makes the world the place it is.

I don’t think I could have said it any better, Dave. I have a phrase that I use often when I am doing presentations: “Yes, I am different from you…but our differences don’t have to make any difference.”

Interesting thought… blend in… It is difficult to impossible to blend into a hearing world completely. And let’s face it, a deaf person who really tries to be hearing is then chastised or shunned by the deaf community. A pretty damn fine line, if you ask me.

Yup, Spiritwolf…too damn fine a line, if you ask me.

We have fallen into a pit of protecting our views instead of curiosity about others.

Sadly, I think you’re right, Quinn. And that’s a dangerous pit to fall into.

I don’t think he gave you or others who do the same enough credit when he said, “When you point out how different you are, people automatically assume you’re implying you’re better than them.” What happened to sharing personal information for the purpose of understanding each other?

What happened indeed, Alpo… have we turned into a society that no longer values that understanding?

I loved what my friend Gaylen Eagle had to say:

I have met you and I never felt you’ve tried to be divisive in talking about the white elephant that everyone knows is in the room.

My sentiments exactly, Gaylen. I can’t hide my deafness, and why would I want to? And since sooner or later others are going to need to know anyway, why not just be open about it and educate others, instead of tiptoeing around, refusing to acknowledge an important fact about myself simply because it might threaten someone else’s comfort level?

I never feel quite right with people until they understand my deafness. It’s such an integral part of who I am. In order to spend any quality time with me, they need to understand how I communicate..

I fully agree, Kim… I’m the same way. I think this goes hand and hand with what Alpo was saying above – that sharing is an integral part of learning to understand one another, and thus be able to effectively communicate with each other.

That comfort level was mentioned by a couple of readers, while others talked about how the way we handle our differences and present them to others plays an important role…

I think it’s entirely how one presents one’s differences…We should appreciate who we are and not feel hesitant to share that…As far as how others feel, in my own experience, I only feel bothered if I am getting the sense that the other person is telling me things in such a way that they think I would be more satisfied with my life if I practiced living the way they practice living.

I think my readers have a point here – differences are a good thing, but just as we expect others to accept our differences, we need to be accepting of theirs, and recognize that “one size does not fit all.” We must also accept that not everyone is going to feel comfortable with all the various differences in the world… we should practice tolerance, but we can’t necessarily demand acceptance.

The beauty of us as humans is that we’re diverse. I LOVE diversity and all that it means.

We live at a time when members of groups that were once marginalized are now sitting down at the table and joining those who have enjoyed privilege.

We are living at a time when self-identification is important – to let others know what and who we are, to build bridges between communities where there were once tremendous gaps, and in our diversity, find our common humanness.

Beautifully said, Kevin. Indeed, we are building bridges… and we need to continue to do so. We need to celebrate that diversity, not cringe in fear of it.

Kevin’s comment about finding our common humanness within our diversity rings a bell with something that Dave also said:

…learn how to respect and tolerate these differences of opinions. Learn how to understand that there is a divine design behind these differences.

In seeing others ‘defects’ as an interesting characteristic, we open ourselves up to the opportunity of understanding life with depth, meaning and dimension that we never thought of; that we are incapable of doing by ourselves.

And who knows – we just may find a new dimension within ourselves.

There were so many beautiful things said by so many beautiful people, all celebrating the differences that we can discover in each and every one of us. If I neglected to include your comment, know that it is not intentional… everyone had something of value to say, I simply had to make a judgment call about which comments to utilize for this post.

But in the end, I think it was Jeffrey who spoke for all of us:

Better Relationships: Superficial ones?

I think sometimes it takes sticking your neck out to voice the truths of your belief system, or simply your own being. In the case of being deaf, I highly dissuade others from being submissive to the hearing norms we are expected to work with.

Compassion must be had on both sides.

If we keep blending in, we cease to spread an awareness of evident truths and in the process nothing is shared but everything is black and white.

Life, at least in my own perspective, is about colors. Seeing things for what they are. True colors.

Better relationships, as I’ve experienced, are the ones that you can rely on to improve and expand these truths, your truths, our truths. If we did little to support how we really feel, we’d be weltering in a sea of spiritual stagnancy and the lies that abound would furthermore engulf us.

The more truth you apply to your being, the less there is the expectation of blending in and greater is the expansion of our awareness of the many colors.

I love the word compassion and the meaning it has. I may not be the most compassionate person in the world because I’ve had my own battles with the superficial, but in my sharing of my truths, sticking out, I have harvested wonderful allies of that compassion that we believe should be widespread.

Deep and down, I believe we’re already the same,..maybe some actually stick their necks out to point out how different we are because they (the normalites, the majority, the mainstream) have long forgotten that we’re really all the same.

Sleep.
Eat.
Breathe.
And yes, go to the bathroom.

We live together.
Our differences help us understand the colors of living.

There are many rays from the sun with no two alike, yet they are all derived from the same source.

I love my wife’s bumper sticker which reads:
“Well-behaved women rarely make history.”

I think that could sum it up for me.

Maybe I’m too radical.
Maybe I’m too crazy.
Maybe I am.

But Hello anyway…

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I woke up this morning and checked my email, only to discover that I had a new comment to an old post – one that I wrote over a year ago, shortly after I first started Deaf Pagan Crossroads.

It’s a response to my post titled “On Being Deaf…and Pagan” - a post I wrote about my struggles of being “doubly marginalized,” so to speak. In this post I wrote about my experiences of being a Deaf person in the Pagan Community, and a Pagan in the Deaf Community. It generated a considerable amount of interest when it was posted and received quite a few comments. If you haven’t read it (or at least not recently), I encourage you to go back and give it another look.

Although this post still gets the occasional reader, it hasn’t received any comments in some time… until today. Allow me to quote this guy’s words:

Psychologically speaking, the response you get is the response you caused. It seems that, wherever you go, you’re pointing out your differences instead of similarities. With Pagans, you’re irritating them by saying you’re deaf and with the deaf you’re irritating them by saying you’re Pagan.

I have a pretty good feeling that you would do the same thing if you went to a meeting of deaf Pagans: you’d shove your firewalking down their throat and they’d accuse you of being “too firewalking” for their taste.

If you want a better relationship with others, blend in rather than sticking out. When you point out how different you are, people automatically assume you’re implying you’re better than them.

Hmmmm… interesting.

Now, I’ve always maintained a policy of allowing people to say what they wish to say here, whether I agree with it or not. With very few exceptions, I have pretty much left negative comments on the blog, removing them only when I felt they were rude, offensive, disrespectful… or just too damn stupid. On occasion I might respond to a comment with my own thoughts – or allow my readers to share their thoughts (I have a few I can pretty much count on to do so!)

Yes, I have some thoughts on this guy’s comment.

But… I’m more curious to know what YOU think.

So tell me, readers…

What do you think?

Does this guy have a point? Do you think there is some truth to what he’s saying?

Now, let’s take this beyond merely me and my being Deaf, Pagan, and a Firewalker.

This guy says

“If you want a better relationship with others, blend in rather than sticking out.”

What do you think? Is this is the answer? Is “blending in” the way to create those better relationships?

“When you point out how different you are, people automatically assume you’re implying you’re better than them.”

Is this in fact what happens when we point out our differences? Do people automatically make that assumption?

Whether I agree or disagree with this guy’s statements; as I said, I do find his comments… interesting. I’m looking beyond just his response to me and thinking about how this would apply in general – for example, a Deaf person in the company of hearing people. Should we keep our mouths (and hands) shut and attempt to “blend in” so people will like us better, or speak up (and sign out!) and acknowledge our differences?

I’m really curious to know what others think, so please do post a comment and share your thoughts!

~ Ocean

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photo by .bobby

The other day, while driving home from work, I turned onto a street that is bordered by two swampy fields, with a small duck pond nearby. Needless to say, the area is populated by various breeds of birds; including mallard ducks, canadian geese, and even a heron or two.

But on this day, I became acquainted with a family whose species I haven’t seen for a couple of years.

As I drove down the street, a blur of wings flew across in front of my car, only to be followed by yet a second set of wings. A little startled by this sudden motion, I slowed down and glanced out my window in an effort to find out just what sort of bird was flapping around in traffic. In the distance I could see brown and white feathers scurrying along the ground, clearly agitated. Something was going on here.

It was enough to perk my curiosity, and also raise my concern. So I made a U-turn around on the street, and started back to where the ruckus was taking place.

It didn’t take long to figure out what the problem was. Scurrying along aside the curb were four little chicks, trying desperately to join their parents who were running alongside above them up on the grass. Unfortunately these babies were just too young and too small to be able to jump up over the curb and onto the grass, to join the adults in the field.

Studying the adult birds carefully, I quickly recognized the brown and white plumage, with the black ring around the throat (thanks to my late father, who was a big outdoorsman with a love for all creatures, great and small)…

Killdeer.

photo by curt hart

The Killdeer is a type of plover – a widely distributed type of wading bird. There are about forty different species of plover found throughout the world, and the Killdeer is probably one of the best known plovers here in the United States. It is found all over, not just close to water… in fact its breeding habitat is fields or lawns, where it nests on open ground – often on gravel. Killdeer nests have even been found in parking lots! The nests blend in quite well with their backgrounds, and the eggs themselves look like speckled stones.

Their name comes from the call they make, which sounds like “kill-deer, kill-deer, kill-deer.” They hunt for food in fields and along shores, eating mainly bugs. Killdeer are quite successful and popular because they readily adapt to living close to people; however, this make them vulnerable to being killed by cars or pesticides or other dangers which come from close interaction with humans. Killdeer will sometimes nest in the gravel rooftops of tall buildings, by which the chicks may die when they attempt to jump off the roof in order to follow their parents.

photo by *Karen

Speaking of chicks, getting back to these four running by the curb…

It was obvious that if something wasn’t done, these babies were going to meet an untimely death, as they kept scampering around, chasing after their parents as the adults flew frantically back and forth, trying to get them into the fields. They were running out into the street, and while it wasn’t a terribly busy one, there was enough traffic that I knew eventually they could get run over.

That’s when I decided to take matters into my own hands.

Pulling my car over, I parked it by the side of the road and walked up to these chicks, hoping that I might be able to somehow convince them to make a “flying leap” over the curb, or at the very least give them a little boost.

Killdeer chicks can run!

photo by ram.rom82

These little buggers took off in all directions, and it soon became clear that I wasn’t going to have much luck unless I could find some help.

In the meantime, the parents were doing their “broken wing” act… trying to lure me away from the babies. While they are not the only species of birds who use this ploy to distract predators, the Killdeer is probably the best known bird most commonly seen using this maneuver. The parent will walk along the ground dragging its wing and making distress calls, appearing to be injured. The predator, thinking this is an easy prey, will thus follow the adult and move away from the nest.

photo by rlw5663

Of course, such an act wasn’t working with me… but neither was trying to herd these precocious youngsters over the curb.

Then I noticed a man over at the pond, scattering food for the birds. I figured that he must be a fellow animal lover, and called out. He came walking over and I introduced myself and explained the situation. It turned out he worked at the local car dealership right next to the pond, and often would come down, feed the birds, and make sure everything was okay. When I described the Killdeer family predicament, he immediately responded with “let’s see what we can do.”

With the two of us working together, one on either side of a chick, we were soon able to corner them and get up close enough to where I could actually scoop up the young one and gently lift it up and over the curb to join mommy and daddy. One by one, we were able to capture and release three of the chicks into the field, where they quickly scampered off and were soon lost amongst the grass, their little downy coats blending in perfectly with the surrounding foliage.

photo by decadence_2artbar

Unfortunately, we were not able to save the fourth baby – before we could get to it, the chick ran out into the road and was run over by a passing motorist. Needless to say, I was quite upset and cursed at the driver while giving him the finger. But at the same time, I realize that this is just one of the harsh lessons that Mother Nature teaches us. It is a sad but true fact that many bird babies do not survive to reach adulthood. At least I was doing my part to try and give the remaining three a fighting chance.

Contrary to popular myth, adult birds will NOT abandon their babies if a human touches them. It is perfectly okay to handle a baby bird gently in order to place it back in the nest or assist it in some way. Most birds have a poor sense of smell anyway. So my handling the babies, which I did briefly, should do no harm.

After congratulating each other, my fellow baby rescuer and I walked back to my car, feeling pretty good about ourselves. In the distance we could see the adult Killdeer making their way through the field, no doubt leading the family along their way.

photo by Wish-I-Was

We are not alone on this planet. We share it with many other species of both flora and fauna. As a shareholder in planet Earth, we have a responsibility to take care not only of the planet itself, but of our brother and sister species. Whatever I can do to help I will attempt to do so. I’ve been known to move turtles off the road, swerve around squirrels, and escort a mother duck and her ducklings across a busy four-lane highway. I’ve taken injured opossums, rabbits, and birds to the local wildlife center. I’ve protested against the needless destruction of a forest, and cleaned up the shores along a river.

And I’ve assisted little Killdeer babies in getting over the curb.

As I drove away from that field, I couldn’t help but feel that the Goddess would be pleased. As I tucked myself into bed that night, I thought about how three little brown, black and white chicks were tucking themselves under their mother’s wing…

All because two people cared enough to stop and help.

photo by hartcurt

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